"Do you think that a healthy sexual relationship in line with your orientation at a younger age would have prevented you from committing [your crimes]?" - M.B. of WA

 What is a healthy sexual relationship? Do you mean, a "normal" sexual relationship? And, if by "orientation at a younger age" you mean my sexual preference as a teen (when I was arrested for "raping" another boy close to my own age), then I'd have to say, maybe. In response to this question I'd have to clarify my answer by saying only that if I had even had just a friend, or adult in my life, who I could have confided in with my feelings (sexual and otherwise) then I seriously doubt if I would ever have felt the need to impose my confusion on another boy who I didn't even know, or want to have sex with for that matter. My "sexual preference" as a teen was not confused. I was very much interested in girls (my own age) and young slender women. I enjoyed soft porn magazines like Oui, Hustler, and Playboy as much as any other "normal" boy my age. My only "confusion" at the time was how to get girls to like me, when I believed from being told so often (by my older sisters, and my own mother) that I was stupid and ugly (which I was neither, I know now, too late). If I had had someone to talk to, and to simply explain to me what a "relationship" was, and how to start, have, and end one, then I seriously doubt if I would have felt the need to impose my shame onto anyone --- because I wouldn't have had anything to be ashamed about.